With Fathers’ Day coming up this Sunday we send best wishes to all fathers and grandfathers and thank you for the critical influence you are in the lives of our young men. If your son doesnt have a father in his life then we know that it is vital that he have other significant males in his life to set the rules on how to behave and navigate life as a male.
Having the right guidance in his life for our young men can’t be underestimated. Adolescence is an important time to lay those foundations, to guide him on the right path to become the fine young men we hope they all become. School provides important role modelling but that has to occur in partnership with parenting that reinforces those messages, the programming if you like , that we are seeking to impart.
Celia Lashlie spoke of the Bridge of Adolescence:
She emphasised that at this age it is important for mothers to step off the bridge and allow fathers to step up and walk their sons over the bridge into manhood. There are so many learnings our sons make from their father where words aren’t actually spoken, where they obeserve the heroes in their lives, where the look from Dad, the raised eyebrow, the crooked finger directing them can speak volumes in a language they understand.
As human beings, we grow up by imitating the behavior of those around us; that’s how we learn to function in the world. If a father is caring and treats people with respect, the young boy will grow up much the same.
If we consider the diagram above we can picture fathers stopping their sons fal linto bad habits at critical points by the appropriate guidance. Are mothers influential? Of course they are but we know that the teenage years are the important time for fathers to step up.
A parenting commentator Michael Grose has some useful suggestions also
This Friday we have our Year 7 Fathers day BBQ as well as it being Jersey Day in honour of Nathan Gremmo and in support of the Donate Life Network. We would encourage all boys, staff and parents to wear their favourite jersey on the day. We look forward to seing our Year 7 Dad’s for breakfast!
In closing. again best wishes to all Dad’s, grandfathers and males who are significant to the young men in our college. Thank you for the enormous formative difference you make.